Some women wonder why they can’t attract the ‘right’ man; some wonder why they keep attracting– or keep being attracted to - the ‘wrong’ type of man. Some may be with the ‘right’ man but feel unable to get what they want from the relationship.
Women spend a lot of their time looking after others or thinking about what others need them to be – rather than focusing on what they need and who they are. Many women actually spend more time looking after others than they look after themselves and fall in a habit of wanting to please others, even if it means not being true to themselves. Some women are so afraid of being hurt, of being rejected, that feel unable to say – and get - what they want from a partner. But by keeping silent, or trying to be a 'good' girlfriend or wife, daughter, mother or friend, women can lose a sense of themselves, lose their 'voice' in relationships, and lose a sense of joy and mastery over their lives. If you struggle with feelings that you are not good enough, are afraid of rejection, or if you 'push' yourself to be that 'good' wife/daughter/mother but feel that there's nothing left for you, if you have trouble saying ‘no’ or setting boundaries with others, counselling for couples could help you find your 'voice' again and regain a sense of confidence that you can ask for – and receive - what you need in relationships.